Paul, 64, had surgery which caused problems leaking urine (incontinence). He talks about how this affected him, how he managed it and the different treatments he tried for erection problems, including a vacuum pump.

There are a number of solutions to whatever it is – incontinence or erectile dysfunction. And like in all these things, if one doesn’t work, keep moving on, keep trying it.

Living with incontinence: Paul's story

Sex and prostate cancer: Paul's story

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Phil Kissi MBE's story

I was diagnosed with prostate cancer in 2006. I visited my GP after watching a television programme about prostate cancer and thought I could be at risk after learning that African Caribbean men are three times more likely to be diagnosed with the disease than white men.

I didn't have any symptoms but I knew a couple of test results were a bit concerning. I had a biopsy and it turned out I had early stage, aggressive prostate cancer.

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