Six step plan when you're supporting someone

It can feel overwhelming if your loved one is approaching the end of their life. Try these six steps to ensure that you are looking after yourself whilst supporting him.

Six steps

1. Get information 

Finding out what to expect can help you and your loved one prepare for the end of his life. This will also allow you to plan ahead to help you and your loved one get the support you need. Read more about what to expect.

2. Talk to each other

Talking about feelings can help get things out in the open and make you both feel less anxious. Try to make sure you both have enough time to say the things you want to say and to listen to each other. If he doesn’t want to talk, just let him know you are there for him or that you can talk when he is ready.

3. Accept help from others

Don’t feel that you have to cope with everything on your own. Try to accept help from others. People often want to help, and this can give you more time and energy to support your loved one. It is okay to ask for help even if it is not offered.

4. Join our online community

Talk to others who have been through a similar experience to you on our online community. Members include men with prostate cancer, their family and friends, and people who have lost a loved one to prostate cancer. Anyone can ask a question or share an experience. It’s a place to deal with prostate cancer together. 

5. Spend time together

Spending time together can help you and your loved one feel less isolated or anxious. Some men don’t feel up to talking or doing anything very active. But even if you’re just around, it will let him know that you are there for him.

6. Set aside time for yourself

Caring for someone who is approaching the end of their life can be exhausting. Making time for yourself can help give you more energy. Try to set aside time each week to listen to music, go for a walk or do anything that you enjoy doing.

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Updated: October 2023 | Due for Review: October 2024