My experience

When my husband Derek was diagnosed with prostate cancer in August 2006 it was completely out of the blue. We both thought he had a flu virus and initially the GP agreed. However, further examination revealed that he had highly aggressive prostate cancer that had spread to his bones. He died in May 2007.

I heard about Prostate Cancer UK and decided to become a volunteer, giving talks to raise awareness of the disease.

What I'm doing now

I was suddenly on my own and I thought: "What am I going to do with the rest of my life?" However, shortly after Derek's death, I heard about Prostate Cancer UK and decided to become a volunteer, giving talks to raise awareness of the disease. I felt I could do something positive. I have met so many interesting people and it has helped me to build a new life, albeit a different one, without Derek.

I wish I had known about Prostate Cancer UK when he was ill, particularly the Helpline. Doctors and consultants often assume a level of knowledge that you do not have but with the nurses on the Helpline, you can talk at an unhurried pace. It would have been such a support to me.

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