Paul, 64, had surgery which caused problems leaking urine (incontinence). He talks about how this affected him, how he managed it and the different treatments he tried for erection problems, including a vacuum pump.

There are a number of solutions to whatever it is – incontinence or erectile dysfunction. And like in all these things, if one doesn’t work, keep moving on, keep trying it.

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