It was a shock when I was told I had prostate cancer at the age of 51. I knew I was more likely to be diagnosed because my Dad was living with the disease, but the result still really knocked me. Like many men, I was symptomless. I had surgery to remove the prostate in May 2011. Afterwards, my kids were great, offering to pick things up for me when it was too painful and now that the side-effects have eased, I'm back to playing with them. They've got their Dad back.
It was a shock when I was told I had prostate cancer at the age of 51. I knew I was more likely to be diagnosed because my Dad was living with the disease, but the result still really knocked me.
When I tell people about my prostate cancer, they're quite understanding, but don't really want to talk about it. Perhaps they just don't have the vocabulary. It has been a real support to talk to Dad and it is interesting how many people open up about their own cancer experiences once I've told them about mine. Prostate Cancer UK offers an online forum where men can share their experiences and talk together and that's so important for men in my position.
Martin, 58, had surgery, radiotherapy and hormone therapy which meant he couldn't get an erection and lost his desire for sex. He tried different treatments for erections and changed his approach to sex - discovering his more sensuous side.
If I’m positive in my head, that’s not the same as being positive in my heart. To feel positive in the heart - that to me, is key to this.See all stories